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强化自律 ----《成功的钥匙》

2013-06-18 09:47:00 天下爸爸

强化自律
Enforce Self-Discipline


前面几章我们所强调的,是控制思想的重要性,对思想的控制,是你的个人进取心、积极心态和热忱控制的关键因素, 而自律则是结合所有这些努力的过程。
Earlier chapters have placed heavy emhasis on the importance of taking control of your mind. This control is pivotal to your personal initiative, positive mental attituded, and controlled enthusiasm. Self-discipline is the process that ties all these efforts together for you.

一个人能达到自律要求后,在其他原则方面必然也会有所进步。自律要求自我认识以及对自己能力的正确评估。同样的,如果缺乏自律功夫,其他原理也无法真正付诸行动。自律可说是一条管道,而你为了达到成功目标,所必须表现出来的所有个人力量,都会流经这个管道。
It isn't possible to achieve self-discipline without making some progress on theose other principles; self discipline requries self-knowledge and an accurate assesssment of your current abilities. Likewise, the other principles can't really be put into action without self-disciples can't really be put into action without self-discipline. It is the channel through which all your personal power for success must flow.

把你的心智想像成是一座贮存你潜在力量的贮存库,你现在应学习从库中释放适当数量的力量,并将它导引到正确方向,这就是自律的本质。
Think of your mind as a reserveoir in which you have been storing up potential power. You will now learn to release that power in precise quantities and specific directions. This is the essence of self-discipline.

控制你的情绪
Controlling Your Emotions

大多数的人都是先行动再思考行动的后果,自律则要求相反的程序:你将学习“谋定而后动”。
Most people act first and think about the consequesnces later. Self-discipline will reverse that process. You will learn to think before you act.

学习这种程序的主要方法,就是控制你的情绪。我们再来回顾一下14种主要的情绪:
The primary means to this ecd is your control of your emotions. For review, the fourteen major emotions are repeated below.

积极情绪
Positive Emotions 消极情绪
Negative Emotions
1.爱 Love
2.性 Sex
3.希望 Hope
4.信心 Faith
5.热忱 Enthusiasm
6.忠诚 Loyalty
7.欲望 Desire
1.恐惧 Fear
2.嫉妒 Jealousy
3.仇恨 Hatred
4.报复 Revenge
5.贪婪 Greed
6.愤怒 Anger
7.迷信 Superstition

所有这些情绪都是一种心理状态,所以也是你能掌控的对象。你可以想像如果不能控制那些消极情绪,会造成多么大的危险。同样的,如果你不能有意识地控制那些积极情绪的话,它们也会造成破坏性的结果。
All these emotions are states of mind and are thus subject to your control. YOu can see right away how dangerous the negative emotions can be if they are not mastered. The positive emotions can also be destructive if you do not organize and release them with conscious control.

隐藏在这些情绪里的,是具有爆炸威力的力量。如果你能适当地控制这股力量,它就可能使你获得成就;但如果你任由它自行奔放,它就可能把你扔到失败的深渊之中,使你头破血流。
Inherent in these emotions is explosive power. If you regulate that power properly, it can lift you to the heights of achievement. But if you let it run wild, it can dash you to pieces on the rocks of failure.

从前面几章中,你已学到明确的目标加上有推动力的动机,是所有成就的起始点。这股动机必须非常强烈,促使你所有的思想和努力,都以达成明确目标为依归……但是你的推动力——你的情绪——也必须由你的判断力来控制,以期你的热忱和欲望不致脱离你的智慧范围成为脱缰野马。

换句话说,你必须约束你自己,以使得你的推动力永远受到控制,而且会被导引到正确的管道中。
You learned in earlier chapters that a definite major purpose, activated by a driving motive, is the starting point of all worhwhile achievement. This motive must be so strong that it will subordinate all your thoughts and efforts to the attainment of your definite purpose. But your drive--your emotions--must also be subject to your own good judgment so that your enthusiasm and desire will not run over your wisdom. In other words, you must discipline yourself so that your drive is always under control and directed in the proper channels.

自律要求以你的理性来平衡你的情绪,也就是说在你做决定之前,你应学习兼顾你的感情和理性。有的时候应该排 除所有情绪,而只接受理性的一面;而有时候你必须接受较多的情绪面,并用理性来做一些修饰——符合中庸之道是非常重要的。
Self-discipline calls for balancing your emotions with your reasoning. This means you must learn to consult both your fellings and your reason before you reach any decision. Sometimes you will need to set aside your emotions and fllow the dictates of reason alone. Other times you will decide in favor of your emotions, modified by your reson. A happpy medium is imporant.

例如那些正在热恋中的人,他们都愿意为所爱的人做任何事,此时他们很容易受到对方的摆布,热恋中的人很难成就什么事情,因为他们根本没有为自己定下什么目标。
Consider, for example, those people who are so in love that they will do anything for their beloveds. Thery are putty in the hands of other. They rarely amount to anything because they have no purposes of their own in life.

你也许会怀疑,热恋时期的危险是否意味着,若能用理性严格控制自己的生活,并且在做任何决定时排除一切情绪因素,是比较安全而且聪明的方法,答案当然是否定的。
You might wonder if this danger means that it would be sager and wiser to control your life strictly on the basis of reason and leave emotion out of every decisison. The answer is and emphatic no.

别忘了你的情绪会给你带来推动力,而这股动力,就是使你将决定转变成具体行动的力量。如果你毁掉了希望和信心,那还有什么值得爱的呢?如果你扼杀了热忱、执着和欲望而仅存在理性时,那理性还会带来什么好处呢?虽然仅存的理性还具备导引方向的功能,但是还有什么好让它导引的呢?
Don't forget, your emotions provide your driving power, the activating force which enables you to put your decisions into action. If you destroyed hope and faith, what would there be to live for? If you killed enthusiasm, loyalty, and desire but still retained reason, what good would reason be? It would still be there to provide direction, but what would it dirct?

你必须控制并导引你的情绪而非摧毁它,况且摧毁情绪是一件不可能的事情。情绪就像河流一样,你可以筑一道堤防把它挡起来,并在控制和导引之下排放它,但却不能永远抑制它,否则那道堤防迟早会崩溃,并造成大灾难。
You must control and direct your emotions, not abolish them. Besides, abolition would be animossible task. Emotions are like a river. Theire power can be dammed up and released under control and direction, but is cannot be held forever in check. Sooner or later the dam will burst, unleashing catastrophic destruction.

你的消极心态同样也可被控制和导引,积极心态和自律可去除其中有害的部分,而使这些消极心态能为目标贡献力量。有的时候恐惧和生气会激发出更彻底的行动,但是在你释放消极情绪(以及积极情绪)之前务必要让你的理性为它们做一番检验,缺乏理性的情绪必然是一位可怕的敌人。
Your negative emotions can also be controlled and directed. PMA and self-discipline can remove their harmful effects and make them serve sonstructive pirposes. Sometimes fear and anger will inspire intense action. But you must always submit your negative emotions--and you positive ones--to the examination of your reson before releasing the. Emotion without reson is a dreadful enemy.

是什么力量使得情绪和理性之间能够达到平衡呢?是意志力或自尊心(我将在以下做更详细的说明)。自律会教导你 的意志力作为理性和情绪的后盾,并强化二者的表现强度。
What faculty provides the crucial balance between emotions and reason? It is your willpower, or ego, a subject which will be explored in more detail below. Self-dicipline will teach you to therow your willpower behind either reson or emotion and amplify the intesity of their exprssion.

你的感情和理智都需要一位主宰,而在你的自尊心里就可发现这个主宰,然而只有你在发挥你的自律精神时,自尊心才会扮演好这个角色,如果没有了自律,你的理智和感情便会随心所欲地进行战争,战争结果当然是你会受到严重的伤害。
Both your heart and your mind need a master, and they can find the master in your ego. However, your ego will fill thei role only if you use self-discipline. In the absence of self-dicipline, your mind and heart will fight their battles as they please. In this situation the person within whose mind the fight is carried out often gets badly hurt.

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